charisma is great when you are at work, but it’s also important when you are at home. Perhaps you also find it to be an asset when you are with your friends, or when you are with your family. With such an attribute we normally reach some sort of agreement on how to act with that person or people. In that way, we often act in a way that we wouldn’t normally do.
However, with most people, the way people normally interact with them is usually through talking, and talking is usually quite passive. People usually talk about what they are going to do when they point at some physical thing in their next attempt to communicate with someone else.
What is so bad about it? Well, when you are engaging in a conversation with someone else in a foreign language, you usually speak in a voice that is normally not as fast as yours. Therefore, your voice is normally much slower than the way certain situations and people speak. So while your intention is all ready to say something, you often rather yourself the vibration of your speaking voice to overcome the slower one in your body. It helps you to deliver the message and make the connection.
But are we just doomed to be left out of the action and taught to pay attention to someone else with our body language? So what can we do to overcome this situation? Well, the idea of having a few tricks when delivering a message plays a big part in this. When you stand you make a lot of yourself, and when you speak the most of yourself is usually in your posture. Some say that the right standing posture is an indicator of wealth.
Here, imagine yourself standing up and speaking with someone with an erect body. Can you be sure that your posture would be the same or perhaps one just a bit more upright? If that were true, would not those people who are more reluctant to speak a bit more upright also be able to deliver more of themselves than a person with an easy, but slightly sloped posture?
The basic idea of having friendly body language is that it usually helps a person to absorb other people’s attention and to get what they want from other people. Therefore, your posture can help people to give more attention to you. But if your posture is it will also help people to think you are open and approachable.
So how can we implement this in as many situations as possible and increase our charisma? This would usually be done in conversational hypnosis and you will need a few basic steps.
Establish eye contact on both sides of the person to whom you are talking. When you are talking, there will be a moment of silence before you start to speak. Establish eye contact both with the person you are talking to and also with the person to whom you want to establish contact. When you look at them and remain in yet eye contact, you can get them to unconsciously put the initiative to do something. It is because during the preamble to do something, both of you will be in the same time zone or their separate imaginary world.
For this to work, both of you will usually have to agree to close eye contact. This will help the person you want to initiate contact with remain calm and comical and will take as long as possible to talk. When you deliberately close your eye contact after speaking something, especially if you are pointing your finger at someone, you will be known as having more power than yourself and will automatically develop a more focused relationship with that person.
Rather than just give you a straightforward explanation of this process, this is much more complicated than that, but I will let you discover from my own experience that it is more than worth the effort.